Enjoy every minute
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Hi, I'm Rebecca. I'm Mum to a gorgeous daughter. I wanted to share how hard I found motherhood due to all the motherhood myths I discovered.
My pet hate was being told to “Enjoy every minute”! It happened often when my daughter was a small baby all the way up to being a toddler. It was usually older women, with grown up kids. I can’t tell you how that comment made me feel without swearing💥!!
I felt so unseen and misunderstood at a time when I was really struggling with motherhood.
I wanted to tell these women how much I wished I was enjoying my life now. I had this precious bundle I’d always wanted, yet I really wasn’t loving life and I hated how bad that was making me feel!
But instead I pushed down the full weight of all the emotion, so I could just mutter something back about how tiring it was, but how lovely it was too. Like I didn’t have all the struggles with anxious thoughts and feelings that I was “A Bad Mum”!
I’d totally underestimated how hard it would be.
To survive on little sleep and even just get out the door with a baby! Let alone doing the shopping or making small talk with other Mums that were in the same boat as me.
And how hard it would still be to feel like a good Mum with a school age child too!
Through my life coaching courses with @mamarisingmovement @seasonsofmatrescence gaining the certifications and supporting Mums myself, I’ve shared group calls with so many other women that have felt this way too! I understand why so many of us struggle the way we do. And how much understanding the word “Matrescence” can help you to feel good about yourself again.
Motherhood blows up our world as we knew it before and it takes time to put all the pieces back together again so you can feel whole and like a great Mum🥰
I personally know that it’s totally possible to enjoy motherhood more fully than we do when we’re feeling all the Mum Guilt on a regular basis.
Mum Guilt causes you to:
🤨 speak unkindly to yourself (I’m a bad Mum)
🤨 push yourself really hard to get all the jobs done
🤨 feel like taking time for you is “selfish” and you have to earn rest (I’ll take time for me later)
🤨 feel unable to soak up the fun joyful moments of motherhood because you don’t have time or the right mindset to notice them or fully take them in.
Can you relate to this?